The Hardest Thing is NOT to be a Mom.
Fighting your motherly instincts is tough. All moms can relate to this, especially disciplinarians, like I was. . . you are a mother FIRST. If Budge doesn’t seem happy at the office or skips lunch, I want to talk to him about that in the office. I want to fix it.
How Do I Adjust? I have to catch myself when this happens and say “would you tell your boss not to skip lunch or to get more sleep if he wasn’t your son.” Despite this tool, my motherly instincts still takeover, and I can’t help myself. I’m still working on it.
Go With My Gut. My mother is smart, talented, and very successful, but I have to go with my gut. Ultimately she is an employee that was hired for her expertise and effort. I have to take in her information, like other employees and process it.
How Do I Adjust? Unlike other employees, when it comes to my mom, I have to remind myself that my decisions are final and eventually, no longer up for discussion. This takes some discipline when you have a great relationship with an amazing mom like mine.
Time Spent Together. Because we work together, I get to see Budge a lot. What’s better than that, moms?!
Establishing a New Type of Relationship. My son has worked by my side since he was a boy. Now, I am by his side in a company that is already successful and has an amazingly bright future. There have been challenges to our relationship during this journey. But like any relationship, it has made our bond stronger.
Ultimate Trust. Running a company, you hire employees with the hope they have you and your business’ best in mind all the time. There is no better trust you can have of an employee than with your mom.
Ultimate Respect. Most of us really respect our mom because, well, they are our mom. In a business setting I respect her because my mother is someone who has already been down the retail road before. She has had great success with her LaCrista Skin Products. That’s why I hired her. And I always remind myself of that.
Make Sure You Have Compatible Personalities. Just because you are family, doesn’t mean you get along. If you can run errands, successfully, together… you can probably work together.
Professional Respect. Make sure your child has had professional accomplishments, before you start to work together. It makes it easier to respect him in the office like a boss, not your child.
Ying and Yang. My son and I are best at different things. This has been essential to Infusion Sciences’ success and ability to communicate professionally.
Office Time is not Family Time. We NEVER discuss family matters in the office or during office hours. That is the most important part is unfair to their employees and crosses the professional boundaries necessary for success. This is the hardest thing to do as a mom. I must say sometimes, I don’t follow this.
Divided Roles. Every person has a unique set of skills to bring to the table. Linda has experience in dealing with retail outlets and mass markets. My experience is in the product itself which leans towards sales.
Seek Outside Advice. This is key in family business because certainly, family always has a biased opinion. Little things from approving designs, to tasting the actual product should be shared with outsiders. The truth hurts sometimes but it is best to hear the truth than to not. My mom is honest, but she also is my mom. . . so to be absolutely sure I’m getting an unbiased opinion, I go outside the company, and family.
No Family Pictures in the Office. This is a tool to set the boundaries with my mom and make other employees feel comfortable that everyone is held to the same standard and expectation of results. My mom may still have my baby pictures in her wallet or purse. As long as business associates don’t see it…we keep a fair and healthy environment.